What Should I Say During EFT Tapping?

So you saw a couple of videos on EFT Tapping but wonder what exactly you should say while EFT tapping and if what you are saying is right or not?

Then you have come to the right post, in this post I share some clarity on what to say during EFT tapping to get best results and how not to be too stressed on if you are doing ‘everything right.’

There are so many instructors out there, and yes, most of them are just guiding basic tapping. But here’s the truth: a lot of them don’t go deep enough into the core emotional scars that keep you stuck. To truly clear away the negative beliefs you’ve been holding onto—sometimes for years—you often need more than surface-level tapping.

Disclaimer: The content on this page is for educational and informational purposes only. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or psychiatric treatment. Please consult a licensed professional for any medical or mental health concerns.

This was pretty confusing for me when I started doing EFT and here I’m going to share my methods which I have seen and gotten results.

I’ve seen so many people just blindly follow tapping scripts without really understanding what they are doing. The truth is, you need to know what to focus on while tapping on each point.

Watching a few videos of Gary Craig teaching the Gold Standard EFT points can give you a general idea of where to tap. But tapping is a completely different ball game when it comes to effectiveness—you need clarity to get long-lasting results(Gary teaches this in his course as well).

Using general tapping scripts can help, but they are very broad. For example, if you have low self-confidence and you keep using a generic script just saying “I have low self-confidence,” your confidence may improve over time, but it will take consistency and persistence.

If there are specific past events that caused your low self-confidence, it may take much longer to fully heal.

Sometimes, using a script can even bring up a plateau, where your confidence feels like it’s not improving completely.

You might even feel your confidence drop temporarily because tapping has reminded you of a past event that caused the issue. This is normal and actually a good sign—you are uncovering the root cause.

How to use EFT Tapping when Work on Traumatic Events

Let’s stay on the example of low self-confidence. Low Self- confidence is often not caused by just one event. For example, it may have started at age 8, but over the years, you may have attracted people who reinforced those feelings.

EFT is powerful because if you work through 5–6 key events that caused low self-confidence, many related events will collapse on their own, and your overall confidence will improve.

Here’s how to work on these events:

1. Recall the event where your confidence was crushed.
2. Break it down step by step, exactly how it happened.
3. Pause at each moment and write down all the emotions you feel—anger, sadness, worthlessness, powerlessness, etc.
4. Rate each emotion from 0 to 10.
5. Start tapping on each emotion individually until it drops to 0–2 (or at least 2–4).

Sometimes, an emotion may not completely reduce the first time. You can move forward with the event but make sure to come back and check the earlier emotions.

Repeat this process for each key event. Once you fully work through an event, you will notice a significant difference in how you feel.

If an emotion isn’t decreasing, ask yourself what is holding it there. If you don’t find an answer, move on to another related event and return later.

If an emotion isnt going down that does not mean EFT is not working, it just means there is something else bothering that isnt letting the intensity of hte emotion go down.

Always keep track of which event you are working on and mark the intensity of your emotions on paper. This step is essential—you cannot rely solely on apps; pen and paper work best.

What to Say During Tapping

When recalling an event, say how you feel. For example: “Even though things didn’t go my way, I accept myself,” or “Even though I feel angry/upset/worthless because of what happened, I accept myself.”

Name the emotions you feel: anger, sadness, frustration, etc. Speak from your heart, acknowledging what you feel in that moment.

Continue tapping and speaking about the emotions until you feel peace. There’s no “perfect” tapping script—what matters is that you are acknowledging the intensity of your emotions and releasing them through tapping. Generic scripts alone are usually insufficient for deep healing.

The method i have mentioned above is something that has worked for me however if you want to learn EFT from the right person it should be Gary Craig. I do not claim to be a teacher but I only share my experience here so it can help others.

Am I Doing EFT the Wrong Way?

No, not at all! There is no right or wrong way to do EFT. You won’t experience side effects, you are simply working through emotions. Often, you may uncover stress or past trauma while tapping. If that happens, tap on those feelings as they arise.

In general, during EFT, just express how you feel, track the intensity of each emotion, and work through events in your past that are causing your current blocks.

For example, if you want to rebuild self-confidence, focus on events that crushed it and tap through the associated emotions.

If you have questions or want guidance on working through events, you can leave them in the comments. If you’re interested in doing a session with me, check out my services—I can help you work through your events effectively and rebuild your confidence using EFT.